我不要你觉得，我要我觉得wǒ bú yào nǐ jué de, wǒ yào wǒ jué de

Not what you think, what I think

wǒ bú yào nǐ jué de, wǒ yào wǒ jué de.我不要你觉得，我要我觉得。Not what you think. What I think.

我不要你觉得，我要我觉得 means “I don’t want what you think, I want what I think”: we do it my way. It comes from a 2019 reality show, and people quote it to tease anyone who will not listen, themselves included.

Took off: 2019
Started in: A 2019 reality show
Today: Fading

What it means

觉得 means “to think” or “to feel”, as in 我觉得, “I think”. The line treats 你觉得 and 我觉得 as things you can want or refuse, “your opinion” and “my opinion”. That is not normal grammar, and it is why the line sounds funny.

The meaning is plain: the speaker has decided, and the discussion is over.

How people use it

It is fading, but most people still know it. You quote it to tease a friend who asks for advice and then ignores it, or to admit, as a joke, that you have already made up your mind.

Said in earnest to a coworker, it sounds rude.

灯灯

周末去爬山吧？
zhōu mò qù pá shān ba?
Hiking this weekend?
我觉得太累了，去看电影吧
wǒ jué de tài lèi le, qù kàn diàn yǐng ba
I think that’s too tiring. Let’s see a movie.
我不要你觉得，我要我觉得
wǒ bú yào nǐ jué de, wǒ yào wǒ jué de
Not what you think. What I think.
车票我已经买好了
chē piào wǒ yǐ jīng mǎi hǎo le
I’ve already bought the train tickets.

More examples

每次商量都是“我不要你觉得，我要我觉得”。
měi cì shāng liang dōu shì “wǒ bú yào nǐ jué de, wǒ yào wǒ jué de”.
Every time we discuss something, it’s “not what you think, what I think”.
晚饭吃什么我已经决定了，我不要你觉得。
wǎn fàn chī shén me wǒ yǐ jīng jué dìng le, wǒ bú yào nǐ jué de.
I’ve already decided what we’re having for dinner. Your opinion is not needed.

Where it came from

The line comes from the third season of 中餐厅, a reality show in which celebrities run a Chinese restaurant abroad, aired in summer 2019. The actor Huang Xiaoming, the restaurant’s manager on the show, said it in an episode.

Viewers began to quote it as a joke about any decision that is already made. It spread online with other lines from the show, such as 听我的，什么都听我的, “listen to me, listen to me on everything”.

咬文嚼字 put it ninth on its list of the ten most popular phrases of 2019.

The original. A scene from the 2019 reality show 中餐厅, where the restaurant’s manager said the line. The Paper’s report on the phrases of 2019 explains it. The Paper (in Chinese)